An opinion piece by Hiba Sohail
When cricketer turned politician Imran Khan became Pakistan’s Prime Minister in 2018, there was widespread cautious optimism that he would reinstate the liberalism of the early 70s. His ideas of populism and a promise to crack down on the corrupt institutions of the country were a welcome change in a country long overdue for a revolution. It became apparent that such promises would not and could not be extended to the growing grassroots feminist movement in Pakistan. Khan’s repeated attempts to discredit feminism as a wholly “Western” concept are harming Pakistani women across the nation that are already bearing the pressure of an oppressive, patriarchal society.
Earlier this year, he addressed Aurat March (Pakistan’s Women’s March) as an issue of division and “distinct cultures,” calling for one curriculum for schools across Pakistan. A week ago, he reiterated the same claim, blaming the rising divorce rate in Pakistan on the West’s “immoral mannerisms.” For how long will the highest office in our land pretend to be liberal and progressive when it is stifling the very voices of the minority it promised to protect?
By pushing the already false dichotomy of westernization and saying that Pakistan’s family system is the better of the two, Khan has carefully curated an even more homogeneous society where women have predetermined roles. As a cis-het Pakistani man, he won’t ever speak against the very thing that has handed him his elite status and privilege. Our family system relies on the compromises and sacrifices of women. As much as South Asian society respects its inclinations towards marriage and traditional values, we as a society must evolve past this inherited misogyny. This has nothing to do with the so-called threat of Westernization, as much as it does with the obsession Pakistani leaders have with weaponizing culture and religion to suppress women.
Khan’s fixation on pushing the role of a woman to the forefront of national politics is a very calculated move. Not only is it hypocritical given his personal history, but Khan is also forgetting that it is not only mothers that raise children, fathers do too. By placing an emphasis on motherhood rather than joint parenting, he is justifying and normalizing the manipulation and gaslighting the patriarchy inflicts on women. Motherhood suddenly becomes honorable and working women are punished with double duty.
2020 saw a wave of gender-based violence in the country, including a horrific gang-rape of a mother on the Lahore-Sialkot Motorway. Aurat March was attacked by extremists and many male celebrities pushed fabricated narratives of the march, with one calling it a “foreign-funded” endeavor. The popular slogan Mera Jism, Meri Marzi were mocked relentlessly for promoting vulgarity. Khan did not say anything to the attackers at the March but did feel the need to undermine the Aurat March itself. Radical feminist web-series, Churails, was subsequently banned on the grounds of indecency with online trolls saying feminism went against Pakistani values. What are these Pakistani values people are so keen on defending? Intolerance, hate, and violence?
And again. Sigh. https://t.co/RFSC7543lm
— Jemima Goldsmith (@Jemima_Khan) June 22, 2021
Pakistani women are economically trapped, abused, and then shamed for speaking out. The family system Khan holds so dear has allowed countless psychological, spiritual, and physical crimes against women to occur. This dangerous lilt to appease right-wing sentiments is a reminder to Pakistani women that their beliefs and fights are valid. Secular and progressive values don’t fail because they don’t align with Pakistani culture – it is because of state-sponsored censorship and violence. We cannot keep taking two steps forward just to be pushed three steps back. We must tackle this oppression at the root: those who preside over our system (then and now) have exploited sensitive sentiments and have trapped us in a state-led cynical cycle of hopelessness.
Presently, Khan’s interview with HBO Max – and yes, even the unedited one – revealed his true feelings towards women. Khan said, “We don’t have discos here, we don’t have nightclubs. So, it is a completely different society, way of life here. So if you raise temptation in society to a point, and all these young guys have nowhere to go, it has consequences in society … If a woman is wearing very few clothes it will have an impact on the men, unless they’re robots. I mean it’s common sense.” The famed womanizer, complete with a child out of wedlock (something that would damn a woman to the farthest places in the land in Pakistan) once again turned to victim-blaming. There are several things wrong with his statements, and some we cannot even begin to articulate with words as eloquent (or hurtful) as our beloved prime minister.
Rape is one of the most, if not the most, vile acts of violence inflicted on a person and it is never the survivor’s fault. Pakistanio ko bohat shauk hai ‘ek haath se taali nahin bajti’ bolnay ki. It’s painful to see this logic applied to rape survivors, when it simply cannot be. Khan minimizes the act of rape to one thing: a woman’s attire. In doing so, he conveniently sidesteps the pressing and ever growing crisis of pedophilia in Pakistan. Maulvis – those assigned with spreading our faith – are sexually assaulting children (mostly boys) in our places of worship.
Clothes are just pieces of fabric, expressions of fashion, a visible marker of autonomy – not an invitation. No amount of gaslighting can ever convince the women of this country that we aren’t covered enough, because we are. Our lived experiences, the ‘casual’ harassment in markets, and being told to cover up from practically the day we are born have taught us that we aren’t safe. What’s worse is that no amount of covering up can keep us safe because we are not the problem.